Back in the “old days” wording your wedding invitations was easy. There was the etiquette correct way to do it and that is all the options you had. These days, things aren’t always so simple! Let’s dive into some common questions that I get asked about your invitation wording…


Formal etiquette wording helps make this invitation formal and timeless. Learn more about invitation wording at

I mentioned that there used to be an etiquette correct way to word your invitations and this is still the case. If you are sticking with etiquette, here are the things that you will want to keep in mind:

  • The invitation should be worded as coming from whomever is hosting (paying) for the wedding. Traditionally that was the Bride’s parents which is why you often see invitations worded as Mr. and Mrs. John Smith inviting to the wedding of their daughter.
  • The actual invitation language should reflect the type of ceremony you are having. Request the honor of your presence denotes a religious ceremony. Request the pleasure of your company denotes a non-religious/civil ceremony.
  • You should use your full, formal name. However, if your parents have been listed on the invitation prior to your name being listed (and they have the same last name) you only use your first and middle name.
  • Everything should be spelled out – the date, the time, and the commonly abbreviated words you may find in an address (Avenue or California for example.)
  • You should not list anything other than invitation details – no websites, not rsvp info, no details about children not being invited, etc.

Tricky Parent Situations

This invitation is worded from both sets of parents. A good idea if they are both chipping in on the wedding expenses! Find out more about invitation wording at

Now, one common issue that may happen is that you don’t have a typical married set of parents and you are wondering how to list them. Here are some guidelines…

  • Divorced parents should be listed on their own lines.
  • Deceased parents should not technically be listed on the invitation if it is worded as coming from the parents since a deceased person could not issue an invite. If you want to list a deceased parent, consider placing your parents names below your names like so: Jane Marie Smith / daughter of Ms. Kelly Smith and the late Mr. John Smith.
  • There is no formal etiquette that I know of around including step-parents or not, therefore, it is totally up to you and your family to decide if you want to include them.

Ceremony Details

Make sure to include the date, time and location on your wedding invitation! Find out other important details at

The final thing I will point out for today is what to include as far as ceremony details go.

  • Make sure to list the date, time and location of the ceremony. If the reception is in a different location you can either list that on the invite or on a separate “reception” card.
  • When listing the address of your venue you only list city and state – not the zip code. (I know, weird etiquette!)
  • If your reception is in the same location, it is common to include a line at the bottom of the invitation stating something along the lines of “reception immediately following”

Using a generic "together with their parents" is a good idea if you are trying to save space or if you have a tricky situation with your parents.

I hope this clears up some questions you might have had around your wording. If there are any further questions that you have – I would be happy to answer them – leave me a comment below and I will reply!